In both the Imago model and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), our choice of partners often reflects familiar patterns rooted in our trauma history. From a nervous system perspective, we unconsciously seek what feels familiar and “safe,” even if that familiar dynamic is dysfunctional. This is because our nervous systems are wired to seek regulation and connection through the attachment styles formed with early caregivers. If a potential partner behaved completely differently than those caregiver