"Our relationships can heal us, but not in the ways we commonly think - not by controlling our partners or getting from them what we lacked as children. Rather, we heal by coming to terms with the ignored parts of ourselves. We acknowledge our wounded, triggered responses and shift into something wiser, more mature. Everyone hears that relationships take work, but few of us have heard what the nature of that work entails. The real work of relationships is not occasional or even daily: it is minu

''The Sincerity of Relationships: How Challenging Times Reveal True Bonds''